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Good women don’t have bad taste in men

Good women don’t have bad taste in men, it’s narcissistic men that have good taste in good women, because they know exactly who to target.

They don’t chase chaos; they chase kindness.

They seek out women with empathy, loyalty, and strength, the ones who forgive easily, love deeply, and see potential in people even when it’s buried under red flags.

To a narcissist, a good woman isn’t just a partner; she’s an endless source of supply, admiration, emotional labor, and validation they could never give themselves.

At first, he studies her like a project. He mirrors her values, reflects her dreams, and pretends to be everything she’s ever prayed for. He listens, compliments, and pays attention to every detail.

It’s not love, it’s data collection. He’s learning her triggers, her weaknesses, and what makes her light up so he can later control that light.

To her, it feels like fate. To him, it’s strategy.

Narcissists are rarely attracted to women who are weak, they want women strong enough to carry the relationship alone when things start to fall apart.

Soon, the mask starts to slip. The same man who once adored her now criticizes her. The compliments turn into comparisons, the listening turns into silent treatments, and the charm transforms into control.

He begins to drain her confidence while convincing her that she’s the problem. And because she’s a good woman, she tries harder. She gives more, forgives more, and prays more, hoping that the man she met in the beginning is still somewhere inside.

But the truth is: he never existed. He was only a reflection of who she is.

By the time she realizes what’s happening, she’s emotionally exhausted and mentally confused. She questions her worth, doubts her instincts, and starts to believe that maybe she really does have “bad taste in men.”

But the reality is, she didn’t fall for a man, she fell for a performance.

The narcissist wore her love like a costume, and when she finally saw behind the mask, she wasn’t looking at a lover, but an actor who thrived on her light.

So no, good women don’t have bad taste in men.

Narcissistic men just have excellent taste in good women. They know the kind of heart that will keep loving even when it hurts.

But here’s the power twist, once a good woman learns to love herself the way she used to love him, she becomes the one thing a narcissist can’t control or destroy. Her empathy turns into wisdom, her pain turns into strength, and her heart becomes her shield.

Happy Women’s Day Y’All

Happy Women’s Day Y’All - Good women don’t have bad taste in men, it’s narcissistic men that have good taste in good women, because they know exactly who to target. They don’t chase chaos; they chase kindness. They seek out women with empathy, loyalty, and strength, the ones who forgive easily, love deeply, and see potential in people even when it’s buried under red flags. To a narcissist, a good woman isn’t just a partner; she’s an endless source of supply, admiration, emotional labor, and validation they could never give themselves. At first, he studies her like a project. He mirrors her values, reflects her dreams, and pretends to be everything she’s ever prayed for. He listens, compliments, and pays attention to every detail. It’s not love, it’s data collection. He’s learning her triggers, her weaknesses, and what makes her light up so he can later control that light. To her, it feels like fate. To him, it’s strategy. Narcissists are rarely attracted to women who are weak, they want women strong enough to carry the relationship alone when things start to fall apart. Soon, the mask starts to slip. The same man who once adored her now criticizes her. The compliments turn into comparisons, the listening turns into silent treatments, and the charm transforms into control. He begins to drain her confidence while convincing her that she’s the problem. And because she’s a good woman, she tries harder. She gives more, forgives more, and prays more, hoping that the man she met in the beginning is still somewhere inside. But the truth is: he never existed. He was only a reflection of who she is. By the time she realizes what’s happening, she’s emotionally exhausted and mentally confused. She questions her worth, doubts her instincts, and starts to believe that maybe she really does have “bad taste in men.” But the reality is, she didn’t fall for a man, she fell for a performance. The narcissist wore her love like a costume, and when she finally saw behind the mask, she wasn’t looking at a lover, but an actor who thrived on her light. So no, good women don’t have bad taste in men. Narcissistic men just have excellent taste in good women. They know the kind of heart that will keep loving even when it hurts. But here’s the power twist, once a good woman learns to love herself the way she used to love him, she becomes the one thing a narcissist can’t control or destroy. Her empathy turns into wisdom, her pain turns into strength, and her heart becomes her shield.
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6 thoughts on “Good women don’t have bad taste in men”

  1. That’s a very good way of saying this. Often good people are those who get used and hurt the most for these reasons. I think the level where we can prioritise ourselves and other good people, without making time for those who only want to hurt us is about right. But it can sometimes be hard to read people’s true intentions at first.

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    1. Yes, reading people’s intentions is very hard for kind hearted people because they cannot even conceive the darkness other people may secretly carry… That’s why we need to bring awareness of all forms of life that live around us so we all can identify each route better and make healthy choices accordingly. I run a channel about this on TikTok in case you hang out there every now and then! Cheers and thanks for your comment Victoria, Emi

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  2. So how do good men find good women? Because I’ve been told one thing, and treated another. My observations around this Great Awakening is we are shifting away from instinctual behaviors, and into the intuitive. So the paradigm between men and women is about to shift dramatically.
    Sent with blessings.

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    1. That’s a good question and I’ve asked the same many times without ever finding an answer – it seems like good people have a hard time finding each other – I agree we’re about to shift the way we interact with each other and view each other. I have great hopes that we are going to bring people back to look at each other as complex passionating human beings and cure this trend of seeing others as means to an end… You’re welcome to join The Evolutionary Circle if you want: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1328083538267132/

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      1. As an intuitive I see the Sacred Feminine is about to reawaken, as well as the Sacred Fire in men. I see marriage loosing it’s luster; set aside for the serious. Soul groups are going to gather in small Pods; small communities. Have relationships, have kids, and the Pod will raise the kids just like a village.
        Normally I would love to join your group on Facebook, however I left Facebook about 8 years ago, when Mark Zuckbrberg was making big changes. Where I read through their Privacy Policy, and buried deep in legal language the right to sell your information to a 3rd party… And “that” was all I needed to see.
        Non-the-less, march on, brave one!
        I send my love and blessings.

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      2. I like your vision – I just joined a mini community of women to share a house and try this lifestyle for a while
        Things are collapsing severely right now, it’s pretty sad to see but necessary
        I hope for the future to see new forms of intelligence in how we live being born
        We must become more grounded, more realistic human wise and include spirituality in all our decisions

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