Letter to a Karmic & Trauma Bond

Don’t be like him

Don’t be a disappointed man and father

Don’t be a father who cannot be happy for others because he’s not happy with himself

Who cannot support others because he doesn’t support himself

Who diminishes others to feel better because anything someone else has makes him feel jealous because internally he feels he has got nothing

Don’t be someone who finds comfort in criticizing others

Who says awful things without even realizing it

It is so painful to have a dad who does that

So painful…

That’s why we got trauma bonded

Because you do that and you do what has hurt me the most in my life

So I’m here to bring you the awareness

So you don’t become like him

Because it’s not too late for you and you are able to change the end of this story

Working on yourself will enable you to not make your kids become adults who have to live without a deep sense of self confidence because of how much you’ve criticized and dismissed so many parts of them along the way

The damage is Invisible but Real

If they feel their happiness threatens you, they will block their own happiness, kids are more than loyal, they destroy anything inside of them to please their parents, even when things remain unsaid and unconscious

Don’t make kids who become adults who will feel happier away from you because of what you say and do that’s harmful without even realizing it

Become aware

Stop being avoidant and clear that claustrophobia whenever someone approaches your real self

Clean up your inside – Clear your deepest wounds

Become accountable when others tell you something and be willing to do better

Become up to date with your pasts disappointments and make peace with them so you don’t project them into the world today

Reverse anything that has made you feel disappointed, no matter how big of a change it takes so you break the curse of disappointment in your lineage

Do anything and everything so you don’t become like him – that’s my prayer for you and for all men and fathers in this world

Because without the internal cleaning and repairing there’s no way you can escape from becoming like him

He has made himself be seen as a mean individual by me, that’s how I see him because that’s how he behaves and I wish so much I could say something else about my father

He’s put himself in this bitter space just because:

• he has thought that deep self work wasn’t for him,
• he has put pride in all the wrong places,
• he has dismissed his emotions,
• he has rejected and punished himself for being who he was,
• he has put himself in the wrong category of people and has prevented himself from changing it when he realized it was wrong,
• he has refused to himself what he wanted the most all his life…

And it ended up in being a father
who could barely stand himself and stand us…

Life doesn’t allow love for others when we don’t have it for ourselves first, period. It’s an inevitable system. It is not something we can change. Hate yourself and you’ll end up hating everyone, including your loved ones.

So,

This is a serious matter – this is a generational curse that can impact several generations

And if my painful family story can help one kid in this world NOT to experience what I’ve experienced, NOT to be a wounded empath, I’ll just be so happy and so relieved…

So this year, commit to change

Refuse disappointment in your life and build satisfaction on a daily basis

Fix yourself, deeply, internally, brick by brick

With all my Intense Karmic Love,

Emi

Share your stories of Karmic and Trauma Bonds in the comments,
I’d love to read about your experiences 🙂