When you come from a family with parents who didn’t create a safe space for you and you had to fill up their needs, you may become very tough with other people later on when they show their vulnerabilities.

While you should see them, if they are friends, partners or children, as offering you the gift to share their vulnerabilities with you, to get some support from you because they value you and consider you, you may shut down and think of them as a weight, a danger, or needy people.

And it gets in the way of building deep and meaningful relationships because what you seem to have forgotten in your calculation is that:

No vulnerabilities = no connection

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So that’s how people end up in couples where they have a daily life that looks more like a system than a proper warm family life.

You may withdraw from situations when people seem to need you, thinking it’s the right thing to do for not to end up in other situations where you have to help others at your own expenses but here you’re seeing your present through the lens of your past so it can’t be right.

The people you meet now have nothing to do with the people from your past and seeing everything through this lens is detrimental.

So you end up being surrounded by either no one or people who never need anything from you, which can feel very poor in term of emotional connection and it cannot create Real Love vibrations.

People bond because they need each other which can be positive and healthy. It is not healthy to build walls around yourself and live inside a fortress because it’s like putting yourself in a prison.

Bring your soul and your heart outside for a little bit of fresh air every now and then!

Other people will appreciate to see who you really are! 🙂

If you need help to reconnect with yourself and your emotions, contact me!
Emi – Positive Social Impact