I think the only answer you need to have is this one:

When I’m sitting on a bench with this person, 20 years from now,

We don’t talk: does it feel boring or does it feel like experiencing the soft serenity of life?

Am in a hurry to go and keep being active or can I stay for a long time with no rush?

Then we start a conversation: do I feel passionate about what he/she’s saying?

Does this conversation last for a long time and lights up your day?

Leaving that bench, do you feel grateful you have this person in your life that makes a boring day so special?

When you have a yes for all of the above, I believe that anything else can be sorted out.

If you want to have a supportive chat with someone who genuinely listens to you – feel free to contact me – Emi from Positive Social Impact