When it comes to start a family and find a partner for that, the reality can be tough.

You may not find the right person at the exact time when you wish you would.

My advice on that is to wait until you’re sure.

The sad thing I see, again and again, is people who have settled for a practical arrangement, more than a true love story and who face other issues later on.

One day, you will meet your soulmate

Because what’s going to happen, when you’re already in that mediocre relationship and you finally meet that soulmate with which everything feels fantastic and there’s a true love power?

It puts several individuals in a really tough scenario. What to do from there?

This being complicated, this is where you don’t want to arrive. And the only to prevent this to happen in your life is to wait until you have found the right person.

You need to understand that what nurtures children first is true love. Starting a family without true love is putting several individuals in a life that will be really long and really tough.

Also know that your children will download and reproduce the model you’ve built for them. So if you don’t have a true love vibration in your home, they will think love is the absence of love and they will carry this pattern over all their lifetime.

How a lack of love affects children

It’s incredibly hard for adult children to find a loving relationship when they come from a home where the couple was more of an agreement, an exchange, rather than a true love story.

That’s why it’s not valid to say that you will sacrifice your love life to protect, because in reality, by doing that, you sacrifice their own happiness, part of it as kids and also as adults.

I don’t write those words lightly as I’ve experienced that in my own life. Coming from a home where the parents didn’t have a loving relationship, I’ve seen the consequences over me and my sister, and I’ve seen this common issues over many other individuals.

The way your children will be wired is 100% based on how you are wired. If you persist in unhappiness and lack of pleasure, your kids will be condemned to live like that and their sense of attraction will be activated in situations where they are not loved, because that’s what they know and what’s familiar to them.

Having children comes with a lot of responsibilities and the biggest one is your own happiness. A separation is something the children will be able to see and understand, from their level of understanding and then later on. It is something they can identify.

Staying in an unhappy relationship is something else. It is extremely insidious. It is a hidden toxic pattern wrapped up in a colorful gift and it’s one of the worst betrayal parents can do to their children.

True love exists

Because, true love exists. It is becoming more and more rare because people don’t have the courage anymore to wait and go for it. Sadly. But it’s still here. But our comfortable societies have built weak people. Who want everything their way and quickly. But life doesn’t work this way. Life brings you exactly what you need in its own time for you to build yourself properly.

As long as you experience hardships, it’s what you need. Why? Because you need to build yourself, and part of it is building yourself through some sufferings. Life wants you to grow and you refuse to grow, you will suffer like hell.

The harsh part is that life doesn’t always leave you a choice. What to expect if you refuse a growth evolution, a quantum leap, is an endless display of negative emotions and depression that will get worst and worst until you change your mind.

Life is abundant and generous when you go the right way. But it’s also very harsh and with no pity when you refuse to grow up and face the hardships that are offered to you. But the good news is that on the other side of facing those hardships, there is all that you ever wanted. There is true love and true happiness.

And it will often show up in completely unexpected circumstances.

So be brave. Be courageous. You got this.

Emi