Because NOT BELIEVING is what leads people to drama.

Every single choice that is not supported by god will break or turn into something painful.

Thinking you can choose every single thing in your life, from your mind and from your limited perception is a complete illusion.

Because there is a higher power that has interest in you moving in one direction and not another.

This higher power wants your growth and your expansion. It doesn’t want you to play small. And if you try to persist into playing small, it will send you suffering, until you take a risk, to improve your situation.

What’s happened these days is that people have chosen a comfortable and non challenging relationship. A companion, they share their daily life with. But passion is missing there and sooner or later, boredom, resentment and lack of interest will be present and make the experience difficult.

If you had children on top of that, of course thinking that it will get better, you will have a bad surprise because it won’t. Children on top of a poor relationship makes everything harder. The frustrations grow, the distance between the partners gets wider, because they are not deeply bonded. They just had an agreement, not true love.

And why did this happen?

This happened because both people didn’t have a chance to believe in life, in the universe and to believe that one day, they will meet exactly the person of their dreams, the person with which nothing feels boring or average, where everything is illuminated by a special energy and strength.

The problem these days of believing in that is that it seems that most people have given up on this quest. So when you meet that person, you realize they haven’t believed and most of the time they already are in a couple or a relationship that doesn’t make them truly happy but that just does part of the job.

People are Scared of Being Lonely

It takes guts to remain on your own until you find the right person. It takes COURAGE to look like a failure in the society’s eyes, for years, because you respect yourself and you refuse to lie and pretend. And the more I see those who pretend and the consequences it has on their mental health, the more I stand strong in my power of not settling for less than what life has to offer.

You must stop being scared of being lonely if you have to wait for the right person and embrace it. You also must BELIEVE that this person exists. This is where sarcastic, bitter people fail. They don’t believe that life has amazing things in store for them so they settle for a comfortable situation.

What are the Consequences of Settling?

The ripple effects of settling for less than what life can offer are multiple. You will make yourself and your comfortable companion who gently closes their eyes on your situation miserable. The more the time will pass, the more this relationship will be empty. If you can lie, life doesn’t and there’s nothing you can do against that.

One day you will meet that person who makes everything makes sense and you will disappoint and destroy his/her life by showing that you’re not available for that, while it’s what people have been looking for all their lives.

You will also transmit to your children that love doesn’t exist, love isn’t worth waiting, that there’s more than a basic daily life to get. Even if you don’t want, they will reproduce your model and they will have a boring love life or no love life at all.

So instead of thinking that you’re doing the right thing, by settling for what’s comfortable, have clear in mind that you’re destroying multiple lives and multiple potentialities for happiness your poor choices and your refusal to take a single risk.

The risk to Believe

The risk to believe never is a risk because it will protect you. Believing will protect you from all the lives that could make your life less than what you deserve.

Believing will sometimes make you a lonely person but it will eventually set you up for a happy situation.

Believing will be the foundation of what life will offer to you.

Why would life offer its best to someone who doesn’t believe in anything and doesn’t make a single effort to get something good?

You have to pay your dues.

Life is generous but life demands to be respected. You don’t respect the rules of life, well, your choice, but you won’t get the end result you know.

At some point, you have to understand that you’re part of a system and you have to fight to build a happy life. Don’t fight = sink.

Your choice.

I know that some situations look very difficult from the outside but most of the time, they are not that difficult when taken step by step.

Human beings are often wrong about the level of difficulty they envision. Some very challenging situations can be managed very well and some situations that look very comfortable and well aligned with the society’s expectations can become true hell.

The problem is that, these days, all the visions that are offered are pretty shallow. Have a problem and talk to people about it. Very few will have the capacity to help you look deep into it to help you find more clarity and some steps to move forward.