Learning how to manage your emotions can turn an entire family atmosphere around, from very difficult and tensed to a nice place where you want to hang out more.

I personally have transformed for the better so much of my life just by learning how to handle my emotions in a healthy way.

Now you may not be attracted by this work and I hear you, I wasn’t attracted by that at all. Until I tried and realized it was what I was lacking to become assertive and self confident. Let me explain.

When you don’t know how to manage your emotions, it’s almost impossible to be self confident because you don’t master how you feel and as a consequence, you don’t master your reactions. And from having reactions that you don’t control, you can lose all of your self confidence.

If you have a high spiritual power and a lot of sensitivity, but you don’t know yourself very well, life will bring you to be impulsive and have very poor reaction. In English, they call it “lash out” onto someone and lashing out is the worst thing you can do to another human being.

This is a sign an immaturity. It means you haven’t learnt how to handle your emotions and whenever something triggers you or bring some anger, you think you have the right the send this raw negative energy onto someone and this is very childish.

The consequences of doing this on others can be very bad and deep. Your partner, if you do this on her/him, can be deeply wounded by those assaults and feel like she’s receiving a cargo of anger that doesn’t belong to her.

Women can be very submissive in appearance and accept a lot, especially when there are children around. But don’t get fooled by this impression. She builds resentment somewhere deep inside of her anyway and she silently disconnects her deeper self from you every time a little bit more: it is a survival reaction.

That’s why learning how to manage your emotions can be a very wise investment to make to save your long term relationship and also the relationships with your children as they can be traumatized by your reactions.

Core principles of Emotional Management:

• Every day, start asking yourself: “how do I feel?” and see if you can answer this and feel it
• Then welcome your feeling and try to name it
• If it’s a tough one, sit with it and observe it
• Feel it all knowing it’s not you, it’s just a messenger, so don’t be afraid of it and listen what it has to say to you
• What created that emotion? Positive = do more / Negative = do less or stop
• Then welcome what’s behind

Because most of the time, the first emotion we feel is just a first wave and behind it, there’s another emotion, a deeper one. For example, behind anger, there is almost all the time, sadness. It’s hard to believe but people who are always angry are people who have the most immense ocean of sadness in their heart.

Save the World & Cry!

The world will change the day men will start crying again.

Because let’s break the healing work down a little bit:

Most of the healing work is about crying.

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Our modern world has tried to suppress and shame tears. While they are extremely healthy and necessary. There is no way you can get out of a depressed state without crying.

You have kept very bad emotions deep within and you need to let them go by entering them and living them fully again, to relieve your heart and find a light one again just like when you were a kid and everything felt so simple!

This old masculine myth “men shouldn’t cry”

The old masculine myth about being a man meaning not to cry is overrated and more, it is destructive.

The way I want to open here is that by becoming more and more comfortable with your emotions, you will also be able to be more comfortable with the ones other members of your family have.

Men are often completely disempowered and almost in a state of panic when they see their wives or their children cry. But why are they feeling this way while crying is a perfectly normal human reaction? Because they are dismissing their own emotions all the time and the ones others feel annoy them and sometimes repel them.

I remember having a companion who would reject me very badly every time he would see me crying. While it’s basically the contrary that we would expect. This problem in handling emotions created a huge gap in our relationship, pushing it to end at some point.

You cannot want the best people have to offer in this life without wanting to deal with their emotions.

Lots of women have learnt how to hide their emotions, from their parents, their partner, given that so many people don’t want to welcome them. But that’s how the world has damaged itself – and we need to make this stop.

All types of emotions are fine – IF you know how to manage them.

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