14th of February

Talking about Love. As it seems like it’s the right day for that.

Or about how love seems like it has left the boat and be replaced by many things that seem to be considered as more useful.

In social medias where we always make life look better than it is, I would like to share how sad it feels to me that nowadays, so many people seem like they have completely lost sight of what a romantic relationship is supposed to be.

I see people who want to consume what someone else has.

Who are interested in getting what someone else may have.

People who look for additional money, additional affection to fill a gap, a need and it’s like they want to hire you because they see how good you’ll be at doing this job for them.

They consider that you’re here to serve them and this has become less and less hidden as it seems to have become the new normal.

Still for too many men, women are here and born to serve men. It’s how they see things and they are always surprised when they see that you don’t follow their demands like a puppy.

In France, men clearly are the less romantic ones on the planet and on top of fulfilling their needs, they talk to you like a piece of meat and I even feel nauseous thinking about how men show up nowadays here. I’ve seen it getting worst those last years and I’m worried how far it’s going to continue in that direction.

In France, as a woman, not sleeping with men after one or two dates means you’re going to be single because it’s not how things work. They have so much power here and women are like door mats. Sadly. They obey. Very sad to see how women are still unable to say no to a man here and how men don’t see the value in a woman other than in her body & physical appearance.

Women are still extremely submissive in this supposed to be modern country that the whole world admire. But by living here, I often wonder why the whole world admires this country where human values have completely left the boat. France has lost its soul essence, it’s been years it’s been gone and it feels cold.

I’m lucky enough to travel often and not to spend all my time here so I recharge myself with great people abroad but on this Valentine’s day, I feel sad and full of empathy for most women I know here who have the choice between a horrible relationship where respect has been gone for ages or being on their own, which is something the whole society will reproach to them every time they’ll get out of the house as it still disturbs people a lot to see that truly independent people exist.

Love in its real meaning & appropriate behavior in a romantic relationship is something that has been completely destroyed by new modern commitments.

Marriages and couples have become transactional a lot more than relational.

So I guess my hope is to see the relational part coming back. Thanks to some friends online, I know men are not as pathetic as they are in France right now. It’s not the same everywhere. I know there is better. I know there is hope.

#love